Colour Your World?
Written by Lorrene Mcclymont on September 11, 2019
I took this photo in Tasmania. The plan was to post it on my instagram feed with a caption along the lines of “Be the colour in someone elses world today.” As I was thinking about it, it occurred to me you can colour someone’s day in a good way. You can also colour someone’s day in a negative way. You can come along like a black cloud and darken everything around them.
Service And People Pleasing Are Not The Same
I am very much a Yes person. Over the years I have struggled a lot with perfectionism and wanting people to like me. I want to say yes to everyone and everything because I want to help and I want to bless people. It is one way that I can bring some light into the lives of the people around me. Unfortunately, I also want people to like me and have previously been scared to say No. As I get older, I am realising that there is a difference between service and saying yes to everything. It’s a fine line and it is really easy to step over it from a healthy place to an unhealthy place.
To Busy Doing To Just Be
it is always a sign for me that I am tipping towards unhealthy when I am so busy doing that I am never just being. I get really tired and drained and a little bit resentful. I find my attitude slips. When I am not looking after myself, I notice my speech is negative and I become overly critical. The colour I leave in someone elses world is absolutely black and gloomy.
Looking After Ourselves is Crucial
There is nothing wrong with looking after ourselves because then we can give other people the best version of us. That looks different for everyone, for me it looks like getting enough sleep, making time to write, getting up early enough in the morning to complete my routine and making time for photography. I need to build in devotional time, this renews my spirit and allows me to rest. These are the things I have identified that keep my attitude right and allow me to be there for other people in a healthy way.
You Can’t Be There For Others If You Aren’t There For You
You can be incredibly busy and rested at the same time. It is impossible to be there consistently for other people, if you aren’t there for yourself. Sometimes we just need to do a bit of a check and evaluate how we are impacting those around us. Are we having a positive or negative impact on them? Is there some work we need to do with God to be able to minister to others from a healthy place? Do we need to give ourselves permission to actually look after ourselves for a season?
Looking after yourself first is a healthy choice. It is the only way that we can effectively reach out to other people in a positive way. It is funny because I always thought prioritising myself would mean less time and energy. I find as I approach it in a healthy way, with God, I am busier but somehow have more time for both myself and others.