The Hitching Post
Money, Money, Money
Much as we like to pretend otherwise, so many things in our lives revolve around the finances available to fund them. Weddings are no exception, and can be a huge financial stressor on a couple.
Money comes with a lot of attached expectations. I see more and more couples choosing to fund their own wedding, with no assistance from family, so that the day is 100% their choice.
Talking about money is uncomfortable for many people, especially asking for large amounts of it from family.
There are a few tips I can give you to assist in the ‘money-gathering’ phase:
- Sit down with your fiancé and discuss your expectations – make sure you agree on your vision and what it will cost.
- Be very polite when asking for money – ask questions like “Do you feel comfortable making a contribution to the wedding?” then let them suggest how much is best for them.
- Clarify expectations – those contributing money may have expectations of control over the planning and the choices being made. Be clear that final decisions will be made by you and your fiancé, but be aware that their contribution does mean that they should be somewhat involved.
- You’ll be joining two families together – if both families are contributing financially, then make sure all parties are aware. Beware of bruised feelings when people are not able to pay as much as others.
- Budget wisely – stay on track. It’s not a good idea to blow the budget when its funded by other people!
- Don’t go into debt for your wedding! Either scale back your ideas, or wait until you can afford exactly what you want.
Sonya of Heavenly Weddings is an Adelaide-based wedding and event planner with 8 years’ experience, who was born organised (just ask her friends). She loves to exceed her clients’ expectations, making sure every event is flawless – right down to the last little detail.
08/09/2017 / Kit Densley