The Hitching Post
After getting engaged, you’ll likely have lots of offers of support from friends and family. Some you’ll want to take up… others not so much. Some helpers, like Aunt Susan, won’t be put off – if you don’t give her a task she’ll find one to do for you, like crocheting lace collars for the bridesmaids dresses.
The saying “it takes a village to raise a child”, can also be true of planning a wedding, IF you want it to be. Some prefer to pian it all themselves, which is totally fine – its your day your way!
So, how do you accept offers of assistance from some and deflect others? Politely!
If you have friends and family desperate to help, its best to find them tasks that will help you, but not stress you out even more.
Here are a few ideas:
• Wedding day transport and airport pickups > for yourselves/Grandma/your third cousin who is flying in from Canada.
• Running errands > there are lots of things to drop off and pick up in the last weeks before the big day, like flowers, invitations, suits, dry cleaning, the list goes on.
• Ushers at the wedding > you’ll need several people to greet guests, ask them to be seated, hand out bubbles and programs, etc.
• Minding the flower girls and page boys > extra hands will be very useful on the day to keep the little ones out of trouble!
• ‘Crafting’ > in the event you are doing some DIY for the ceremony or reception, craft-minded people are great to have around.
• Outfit alterations > taking up bridesmaids/flower girl dresses or page boy outfits might be something that an aunt or friend would love to do.
• Moral support > never underestimate the relief of just heading out for a coffee break with someone who cares about you.
Sonya of Heavenly Weddings is an Adelaide-based wedding and event planner with 8 years’ experience, who was born organised (just ask her friends). She loves to exceed her client’s expectations, making sure every event is flawless – right down to the last little detail.
28/07/2017 / Kit Densley