To Elope, Or Not To Elope?
I don’t think there are too many brides (or grooms) who haven’t begged their partner to elope at some point during the wedding planning process. Busy lives, conflicting schedules, tight timelines, so many choices to make, family and friendship complications – all of these combined with the gamut of emotions that run during the wedding planning process can definitely take their toll.
Today the term “elopement” is colloquially used for any marriage performed in haste. Some couples elope because they wish to avoid objections from parents, or religious obligations, but many want to avoid the expectations (and cost) of a big wedding.
So is jetting off to Las Vegas to be married by Elvis, or to Paris for a sunset ceremony in Montmartre, a real possibility? If it is then there are some things to remember:
- Make sure you still put effort into the elopement wedding day – planning your matching outfits, incorporating little family treasures (like Nanna’s pearl earrings or Pa’s fob watch) and getting pampered on the day together
- Photography will be very important – for yourselves and those who can’t be there to share this very special day
- Be prepared for some hurt feelings – some people will really struggle to understand your elopement, so be ready to reassure them that they are very important to you but that this was the right thing for the two of you
- Make sure you have a list of all the people you will need to contact before you announce it to the world on Facebook.
If eloping isn’t for you, there are some simple yet effective things you can do to plan a beautiful wedding and keep your sanity:
- Use a wedding planning timeline – make sure you are working on the important things first
- Write lists – research shows that writing tasks down can help you to prioritize intelligently, allowing you to focus your time and energy
- Learn to delegate – there are usually many tasks that could be delegated to your partner or trusted friends/bridal party/family members
- Engage with an event planning professional – this is what we do! Event planners can assist with everything from providing individualised task lists and timelines, to the coordination and planning of your entire wedding. Even a short consultation can help set you on the right track.
Sonya of Heavenly Weddings is an Adelaide-based wedding and event planner with 8 years’ experience, who was born organised (just ask her friends). She loves to exceed her clients’ expectations, making sure every event is flawless – right down to the last little detail.
07/04/2017 / Kit Densley