Game of Life
Uncruel To Be Kind
I once had a coach who wanted to create a tough team. If you made a mistake, you did laps. If the drill was done wrong, 20 push ups! He’d say ‘I gotta be cruel to be kind’.
But you know what happened right?
He created a team of players who were afraid to try new stuff and innovate. He created a team that was always wary of the weakest player in case they made us do the hated pushups. It was anything but kind.
And it was the exact opposite of how God creates toughness and resilience in us.
The way to build toughness in a sportsperson is to give exercise to the necessary muscles and support the drive to learn how to keep going. For a sports team it means supporting the drive to try new stuff and never stop being the best for each other. I want to be tough because I love my teammates and never want to let them down. But I also know that If I do, they will still support me.
In my spiritual life, toughness comes from knowing I don’t rely on myself but on God. Knowing that when I make a mistake, he still loves me and he does that because he wants me to excel at being the most effective, unique me I can be.
God never punishes me, he is not ‘Cruel to be kind’. He lets me make mistakes when I play the game and he lets me face the consequences of those mistakes, but that is not punishment. It’s the natural result of trying to play the game of life to the best of my human ability. I can play sport or life soft, but that’s not how it’s meant to be played. And my coach wants me to be the best I can possibly be.
09/04/2017 / Kit Densley